The Imposter Syndrome

Perfectionism is a classic imposter syndrome symptom Some high-achieving people suffer from a terrible insecurity where they are unable to accept and enjoy their accomplishments regardless of the level of success they may have reached or the external proof of their competence. There is a deep sense of intellectual or professional fraudulence. Dr. Valerie Young has written about the Imposter...

Teaching Lawyers to be in the now

The way we spend our days is the way we spend our lives — Annie Dillard With the new year now here it is time to take stock of where you have been and where you want to go. A book can help you make the changes you want this year. Transforming Practices, Finding Joy and Satisfaction in the Legal Life by Steven Keeva, an editor for the American Bar Association’s The Lawyers Magazine, shows...

How to handle a client complaint, or lawsuit

You come into the office and the letter is sitting prominently on your desk. It is addressed to you and marked ―personal and confidential.‖ You experience a range of emotions even before you pick it up — fear, anger, defensiveness, guilt. Your stomach is doing flips. You open it and read the allegations against you. You feel personally and unjustifiably attacked. Your hands may shake as...

Meditation great way to ease stress

We all know that the practice of law is stressful. We have client demands coming at us through phone, cell phone, CrackBerrys, fax and (even) post. Clients want more, quicker. We may have pressures in our partnerships, money worries and attempts at having a life outside the office. We try to meet these needs that, in the process, take a toll on ourselves. We may develop health problems such as...

Overcoming Negative Thinking

Have you ever had doubts? Have you ever taken them to the next step and berated yourself for something you did or did not do? Is your thinking loaded with such negative thoughts that you suck the air out of a room with your words or even your mere presence? Do you find yourself expecting the worst? Do you often find yourself obsessing about your past mistakes as justification for not taking...